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Sexy Valentine's Day gifts guaranteed to spice things up

Let's just face it: Valentine's Day is the sex holiday.
By Bethany Allard and Leah Stodart  on 
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You know what? We're just gonna say it: A lot of Valentine's Day gift guides are just plain boring.

Now, "gifts for him" and "gifts for her" aren't inherently boring searches. There are a lot of really sweet, unique ideas out there that truly show you've been paying attention to your partner's wants or needs. But what if your partner's needs are more... primal? It's pretty archaic to assume that heart-shaped jewelry or engraved whiskey decanters are the peak of romance.

It's time to wake up and accept the fact that Valentine's Day is the sex holiday. Sometimes spicing things up in the bedroom is the most romantic thing you can do.

We've scoured the internet to find the sexiest gifts on the market. Whether your boo is into BDSM, toys, or is just one of those people who gets turned on by food, there's bound to be a gift option that satisfies their nether regions and their heart.

NSFW warning: Before you scroll any further, we'd suggest making sure your screen isn't visible to bosses, children, or conservative family members. However, if you're in public with just randos behind you, it's your call as to whether you want to be that person shopping for vibrators in Starbucks.

We apologize in advance for using the word "penetration" so many times. No matter how sex-positive you are, that word sucks.

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A Valentine's Day couple's bundle (opens in a new tab)

Best If You Want To Go All Out

Why be subtle? This ten-piece "couple's bundle" from Lovehoney includes two vibrators, four cock rings, kegel balls, a penis stroker, anal beads, and a butt plug — it's basically the super sexy version of the 12 Days of Christmas. Plus, all these toys are rechargeable and waterproof, so you won't have to worry about keeping batteries on hand or staying away from a romantic bath. 
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A wedge for the bed (opens in a new tab)

Best For Trying New Positions

Is it a decorative pillow? Is it a sex toy? It's both. The Liberator Heart Wedge takes pillow talk to a whole new level, acting as a prop that can allow for deeper penetration and access to the coveted G-spot. It's also super cute and your mom will probably ask where you got it when she visits.
lord jones cbd bath salts
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CBD bath salts (opens in a new tab)

Best For Relaxing Before Sex

Valentine's Day is full of pressure to perform. A bath enhanced with CBD bath salts feels luxurious, will make both partners smell delish, and melt away tension to cultivate an atmosphere where both of you feel relaxed and ready to go. This container from Lord Jones does not contain THC and will not get you high.
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A mini projector (opens in a new tab)

Best For Netflix And...You Know

Instead of trying to lounge on an uncomfortable couch, turn the bedroom into a cozy personal theatre with a mini projector. The pocket-sized Kodak Luma can play content via USB or screen mirroring and can project your adult film of choice (or The Office) onto any surface.
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A gold-plated vibrator (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples Who Like Pda

Gold jewelry? Please. Gold sex toys are the new "it" gift, and the 24k gold-plated Vesper vibrator (also available in silver and rose gold) doubles as a surprisingly elegant necklace for fun on the go. Its four speeds and two modes are virtually silent, so no one will know what you're up to. Get a custom message engraved for an extra $10.
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A massage candle (opens in a new tab)

Best For More Exciting Foreplay

Everyone! Deserves! Foreplay! Though getting the juices flowing pre-sex shouldn't be optional, you do have some choices for how to mix it up. Massage oil candles have all the benefits of hot wax, but they won't scald skin. Maude's burn no. 1 candle has plenty of 5-star reviews, with folks citing its sensual scents and skin-softening ingredients like jojoba.

Roller Coaster Bullet Vibrator (opens in a new tab)

Best Gift That Keeps On Giving

Sometimes the best sexy gift is the most straightforward one. This bullet vibrator is less than five inches long, USB-rechargeable, and waterproof — and, as with all vibrators, it can be used solo or with a partner. In honor of Valentine's Day, save 20% on vibrators from Hims.
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Matching undies (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples Who Laugh During Sex

Underwear is always a great gift, even if it won't be on for long. MeUndies is known for insanely comfy undies, available in tons of patterns and sizes to match with your partner. It can even be turned into a subscription for something to celebrate every month.
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Date night in a box (opens in a new tab)

Best For Busy Couples

Busy schedules can be a real cockblock. The Fantasy Box's themed gift boxes have everything you need to make the most out of that rare alone time, and it doesn't even require leaving the house. Some involve your typical bunny ears and fuzzy handcuffs, some have costumes for secret agent role play, and all are guaranteed to up the ante in the bedroom.
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A massage online course (opens in a new tab)

Best For Trying Something New

Technically, the course is for you — the real gift for your partner is being able to decompress with a professional foot massage whenever they want. This Udemy class focuses on Thai reflexology and techniques to stimulate the body's energy systems. A foot fetish is a plus, but not required.
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Arousing essential oils (opens in a new tab)

Best For Earthy Couples

Cast a love spell with this three-pack of erotic oils from Wildfire. Each scent has its own purpose for sending senses into overdrive and making the most out of alone time. Use a diffuser or forego the small talk and put it right on each other.
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Silk bedding (opens in a new tab)

Best For Bougie Couples

Ah, cool and slippery. These pure silk sets from Lilysilk can turn the average bedroom into a castle (er, sex dungeon) and have you both feeling like royalty. Sleeping on silk sheets can also reportedly offer benefits like helping with dry skin and preventing split ends.

A toy for both partners (opens in a new tab)

Best For Selfless Couples

A mutual orgasm is possibly the most glorious bedroom achievement. Lelo is known for its futuristic luxury sex toys and wants to make sure that all parties are vibing. The Tiani 3 is a remote-controlled (yes, really) vibrator that is worn by both partners for separate-yet-simultaneous stimulation. It works best in missionary, but experimenting is encouraged.
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A chocolate fondue set (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples With A Sweet Tooth

Skip right to dessert and melt together with this retro Valentine's-themed fondue set. With a ceramic pot, separate warming stand, and tea light, you can warm your treats without worry of burning or wires. Hey, no one said the chocolate had to go on food.
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Festive lingerie (opens in a new tab)

Best For Lingerie-loving Couples

There ain't nothing cliché about making your partner feel like a damn super model. (And hello, no one's gonna be mad about a piece from Rihanna's line.) Because you get to see them in it, it's basically a gift for you, too — especially when garters are involved. Savage x Fenty also offers crazy deals to VIP members, so lingerie can be a year-round thing.
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The Love is Art Kit (opens in a new tab)

Best For Artsy Couples

Sex is beautiful and should be celebrated. Turn your intimate time into a tangible work of art with the Love Is Art Kit. Simply cover yourself in paint and have at it atop the oversized canvas. Once dry, hang it up on the wall and wait for guests to ask who the artist is. And yes, it comes with body cleaning supplies.
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Boudoir photos (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples Who Appreciate Visuals

Sure, sending nudes over text can get the job done, but if you really want to spice things up, using a polaroid camera gives your partner something physical to hold on to when you can't be there. This Bluetooth-compatible Polaroid allows you to forgo the stress of the self-timer use your phone to snap some sultry photos. The included filters and customization options will allow you to make your sexy pics extra artsy.
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A vibrating cock ring (opens in a new tab)

Best For Upping That Penetration Game

If you like it, then you really should put a ring on it. Get both partners stimulated with the vibrating Je Joue Mio: Complete with five speeds and six levels of strength, feeling those fireworks at the same time won't be such a rarity. It's pricey, but reviewers say it's worth the splurge.
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An engraved champagne set (opens in a new tab)

Best For Classy Couples

Nothings sets the mood like luxury champagne. Celebrate your love as well as the bomb night you're about to have together with this personalized Veuve Clicquot set. Pay an extra $35 to engrave the bottle or an extra $25 to engrave the glasses.

An aphrodisiac bath bomb (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples Looking To Save Water

Get clean before you get dirty. Lush's not-so-subtly-named Sex Bomb is infused with powerful aphrodisiacs like jasmine, sage, and ylang ylang, plus soy milk to get skin soft and touchable. For more arousing scents, Lush has a curated section just for Valentine's Day.

A Winc wine subscription (opens in a new tab)

Best For Boozy Couples

A glass of wine can help you and your partner unwind and loosen up before you get to it. A recurring wine subscription means that you'll always have wine in the house — a good reason to let loose and get in the mood, even when Valentine's Day has passed. 
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A couples yoga book (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples With A 2022 Resolution

Whether you're both devoted yogis or are just doing yoga for the touching parts, this book on yoga for lovers is guaranteed to get hearts racing. Getting stronger and more flexible means heightened bedroom possibilities, and partner yoga is known to strengthen the bond between the two people. Did we mention the half-naked, sweaty part?
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Edgy undies for dudes (opens in a new tab)

Best For Adventurous Types

Gift guides that only suggest cute underwear for the ladies just aren't doing it right. HommeMystere is dedicated solely to men's lingerie, offering a huge selection of patterns and styles for guys who would rather not do a strip tease in American Eagle boxer briefs.
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A bondage kit (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples Who Like It Rough

This Hot Tie and Cuff bondage set comes with multi-direction handcuffs for endless restraint possibilities. Whether you strap 'em to something or go full-out hog tie, it's sure to spice things up.
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A couples spa trip (opens in a new tab)

Best For Stressed Couples

A surprise vacation to Aruba may not be in the budget this year, but there are bound to be nearby places for couples massages that'll still feel like a getaway. Groupon is known for hella discounts on spa treatments (perhaps a spa cave?) for two, especially surrounding the romantic holiday. Just enter your location and find one that suits both of your schedules.
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Kinky Truth or Dare (opens in a new tab)

Best For Experimenting

This game is perfect for if you've been wanting to kick things up a notch in the bedroom but weren't sure where to start. The prompts will let you learn more about your partner's sexual desires, and will give you some racy dares to try out.

Fancy flavored condoms (opens in a new tab)

Best For Respsonsible Couples

These well-reviewed rubbers by Skyn are cocktail flavored, available in piña colada, strawberry daiquiri, and cherry sunrise. And you know what's actually sexy? Preventing STDs and unwanted pregnancy.
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A luxury lube (opens in a new tab)

Best For Keeping Things Frictionless

Lube makes sex better, and while K-Y Jelly can definitely get the job done, Valentine's Day might just be the perfect excuse to spring for something a little fancier. This Maude Shine lube, available in both in water-based and silicone formulas, is kind to sensitive skin and comes in packaging that actually looks nice on your nightstand. Plus its pump allows for easy heat-of-the-moment access.
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A color changing light bulb (opens in a new tab)

Best For Mood Lighting

If you don't like having getting busy in pitch darkness, aren't a fan of your harsh overhead lighting, but are terrified of knocking over some candles in the heat of the moment, the right light bulb can be all you need to get the perfect ambiance. This Philips Hue bulb has a ton of customization options, and will even allow you to save custom scenes, so setting the mood takes no time at all. 
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A erotic audio story subscription (opens in a new tab)

Best For Relaxing, With A Sensual Twist

Listening to audio books before bed is a good way to unwind, but listening to one of Dipsea's 500+ stories before bed is an especially good way to treat your brain before you settle in for the night. Listen alone or with your partner to find some intimate inspiration and feel more in touch with your sexuality.
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A sexy robe (opens in a new tab)

Best For A Romantic Snuggle Session

Your love will enjoy the feel of silky-soft and ultra-luxe satin fabric against their skin thanks to this lace-trim silk robe that comes in a choice of 15 different colors. Lace trim gives this robe just the perfect touch of sexy, combined with the short style. With sizes from small to XXL and a loose fit, it fits bodies of all shapes and sizes.
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A water-based lubricant (opens in a new tab)

Best For Couples Who Like Things Slippery

For couples that like a little extra lubrication for their sexy times, a water-based personal lubricant that is long-lasting, non-sticky, and has a smooth texture is a must-have. This non-staining formula won’t ruin your sheets, and is compatible with most toy materials and natural rubber latex and polyisoprene condoms. Simply splash on a little bit and you’ll be ready to let the good times slip and slide!
red position of the day book
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An interactive activity book (opens in a new tab)

Best For Finding Your New Favorite Position

Are you and your partner always on the hunt for your new favorite sex position? Or maybe feeling a little stagnant with your ho-hum missionary routine? An illustrated book with a new idea for every day (even on leap years!) means you’ll never have to try the same position twice if you don’t want to. Illustrated with anatomically correct drawn figures, the positions run the lusty gamut from plausible to creative.
pulse lube warming device with different lubes
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Pulse lube warmer (opens in a new tab)

Best For Taking Things To The Next Level

Pulse is a first-of-its-kind device that gently heats and dispenses premium lubricants and massage oils. It warms lubricants using induction heating for soothing application. Transform intimacy by making every moment more comfortable, convenient, and pleasurable.
sex talks book
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Sexpert guidance to improve your love life (opens in a new tab)

Best For Getting What You Want In Bed

Sexpert couple Vanessa and Xander Marin have put together the definitive guide to creating the sex life of your wildest dreams — just by talking about it! Discussing your sex life with your partner is the first step in getting what you want and having an extraordinary love life. The authors use gripping storytelling along with tried-and-tested tools couples need to create the sex life of their wildest dreams.

Leah is a shopping reporter at Mashable, where she covers shopping trends, gift ideas, and products that make life easier. She graduated from Penn State University in 2012 and is watching horror movies or "The Office" when she’s not shopping online herself. You can follow her on Twitter at @notleah(opens in a new tab).


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